Lately, there have been many things going on in the world around us that leave us feeling overwhelmed, disheartened, and downright angry. First off, it’s more than ok to have these feelings and emotions, so be sure to give yourself time and space to process. Regardless, uncertainty can leave us feeling lost. I have put together a list of best practices with being able to still allow for intimacy during this time.

In uncertain times, feelings of fear, anxiety, and doubt can take a toll on both our relationships and our sense of self. When the world feels overwhelming or unpredictable, it’s natural for intimacy—whether with a partner or oneself—to be one of the first things affected. Yet, during these moments, intimacy can serve as a powerful source of comfort, connection, and self-understanding. Here’s how you can nurture intimacy, both within yourself and with your partner, when facing challenging times.

   1. Start with Vulnerability

   In difficult moments, it’s tempting to hide our emotions or put up a wall to protect ourselves. But vulnerability is a key component of intimacy. Open up about your fears, worries, and insecurities with your partner or in a journal if you’re focusing on self-intimacy. Expressing these thoughts out loud or in writing helps release the weight they carry and can foster closeness and empathy from both your partner and yourself.

   2. Practice Mindfulness Together or Alone

   Mindfulness invites us to be present with whatever is happening inside of us without judgment. This practice can be grounding, bringing awareness to the here and now rather than allowing uncertainty to dominate. Try meditating together or separately—start with just five minutes. If meditating with a partner, hold hands or sit back-to-back to feel each other’s presence without words. If alone, focus on your breathing and place your hand on your heart, fostering a feeling of self-compassion.

   3. Engage in Non-Verbal Connection

   Sometimes words fall short. Physical touch, a shared look, or even a gentle hug can express understanding and closeness beyond what language allows. Non-verbal gestures remind both partners of their bond and provide comfort when talking feels like too much. For self-intimacy, consider practices like self-massage, gentle stretching, or placing your hands on your heart or shoulders to mimic a comforting touch.

   4. Embrace Physical Intimacy as a Form of Healing

   Physical intimacy—whether it’s cuddling, holding hands, or sharing a deeper connection—can be an effective way to alleviate stress and deepen bonds. It doesn’t need to be planned or pressured; sometimes, simple acts like a long embrace can do wonders. Intimacy is about presence and shared vulnerability, so don’t put pressure on yourselves or expect every touch to carry intense meaning. Sometimes, the lightest and most playful gestures carry the most comfort.

   5. Prioritize Self-Care and Self-Reflection

   It’s challenging to be intimate with others when our own well-being is out of balance. Taking time for self-care is vital, especially during uncertain times. Engage in activities that nourish your soul—read, paint, journal, or go for a walk. Reflecting on your thoughts and feelings is another form of intimacy, building a relationship of understanding and patience with yourself.

   6. Create Rituals for Connection

   Routines and rituals provide stability, which can be deeply comforting in times of change. Establish small rituals with your partner, like a nightly cup of tea together, a gratitude journal you both share, or a simple morning check-in. Solo rituals can be just as powerful. Light a candle before journaling, practice a brief meditation, or listen to a favorite song that grounds you. These moments of familiarity create pockets of calm and connection in otherwise turbulent times

   7. Listening is Key

   Listening is an art, especially when you or your partner feels anxious or uncertain. Instead of rushing to solve or explain away concerns, listen with an open heart. Acknowledge your partner’s feelings as valid, and do the same for your own emotions. Listening intently without judgment nurtures understanding and helps create a safe space for each other.

   8. Practice Patience and Compassion

   Both self-intimacy and relationship intimacy require patience and kindness, especially when circumstances add stress. Be compassionate with yourself and your partner. If emotions run high or patience runs low, gently remind yourself that you’re both doing the best you can under the circumstances.

   9. Find Joy in Small Moments

   While big plans may seem elusive, savoring small moments together or by yourself can be a comforting anchor. Laughter over a shared joke, a smile exchanged over a favorite meal, or a quiet moment watching the sunset can be grounding and fulfilling. In times of uncertainty, these small moments often become the building blocks of connection and peace.

   10. Trust in the Process of Growth

   Finally, remember that both you and your relationship are constantly evolving. Uncertain times often reveal deeper aspects of ourselves and our connections with others. Embracing this growth instead of fearing it can lead to more profound understanding, compassion, and intimacy. Each challenge brings with it a new opportunity to grow closer to yourself and those you love.

Intimacy during uncertain times can be challenging, but it’s also an opportunity to connect on a deeper, more authentic level. By cultivating understanding, patience, and compassion—both with ourselves and with our partners—we can create a sanctuary of warmth and connection in an ever-changing world.